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This may all sound funny considering it's coming from me, but I don't believe in phone calls, text messaging, and instant messaging. What happened to the days when people actually met up to talk? I know technology is making it easier for people to connect with others, but I don't think it should become a substitution. I believe the most meaningful conversations are shared in person. After all, when you're face to face, you're giving them 100% of your attention, and hoping they will as well. With phones, it's convenient to talk to whoever instantly, but never for a long period of time.

For all you know, the receiver could be in the middle of something. Just because they pick up, doesn't mean they can just stop whatever they're doing to talk to you. I pick up because I care about what you have to say. Whenever I want to have a lengthy conversation with someone on the phone (and by that, I mean I want to ask them more than just a few questions), I always ask if they are busy. A hesitation is an fine indication that they rather not talk for long. Because I can't bring myself to say "Yes, I'm busy" right off the bat. But then again, that's just me because I can't multi-task. I guess what I'm trying to say is, I don't enjoy lengthy casual conversations over the phone. And if you're going to say something like, "But you weren't doing anything when I called!" Well, excuse me I don't mean to be rude, but I don't sit there staring at the wall until someone phones me. I am doing something. It's just not significant enough to call it something in your opinion, not mine.
But if you're calling because you seriously need someone to talk to (not because you're bored), then I am willing to drop everything I was doing to listen.

When I don't pick up, it's either I don't hear it, or it's inappropriate for me to pick up at the moment. No hard feelings. You could always leave a voice message, or the next topic, leave a text message.

I admit, I do use texts as a substitution for calling someone because I'm not good with confrontations, even over the phone :\ Or sometimes, I just try to avoid those who I know will drag on a simple phone call. Text messages to me are non-urgent messages. I reply when I see it, I reply when I'm free. I will not carry on a full on conversation with you. So don't go "hello?" on me when you don't see a reply within 5 seconds. Although I do admit there are times when I read my messages and forget to reply because I was in the middle of doing something when I read it. For that, I apologize. Or those early texts that I read while half asleep. Those somehow get abandoned too. Sorry 'bout that.

I used to leave my MSN on even when I wasn't at the computer. I guess that could have potentially pissed a lot of people off because it seemed like I never reply them... haha. Sorry about that! But now that I don't go on MSN unless I'm absolutely bored, this is less of a problem, I think. Need me for something? Send me a text or call me. Just make sure you refer to my above rant on phones. And if you're too lazy to do that, I'll just say it here. I don't like lengthy phone calls.

This has its disadvantages I guess. There are some people who I just can't see on a normal basis, and phones, texts, instant messages are the only way I can connect with them. Or my blog is pretty good, I think. I share everything here, so if you're interested in knowing this anti-social girl, welcome to babycalpis.blogspot.com

I never write as good as when I write in the early hours of a new day.